“But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.” – Matthew 5:37 KJV
“If my marriage does not work out. I can always get a divorce.”
“I will never be like my father (mother).”
“I will never have kids.”
“God will not answer my prayers.”
“I am a victim.”
Those are just a few examples of inner vows. The first one is an inner vow that I made out loud in front of my mother and sister the day of my wedding. I was feeling an emotion that put fear in me. Even though, I dated my soon to be husband for almost four years before we got married and I loved him. I was not at peace within myself that I was making the right decision about getting married.
On May 15, 2009; I had no idea that I just made an inner vow and that Satan was going to come calling to make that inner vow become a reality in my both my life and my husband’s life on June 16, 2015, when the judge granted my husband the divorce he was seeking. Satan was roaming the earth seeing who he can devour (1 Peter 5:8). He heard my inner vow because he is the prince of the air (Ephesians 2:2-3). The inner vow that I made, invited Satan to do what he does best. Steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10).
Inner vows can also be judgments that we make against people. It can be a simple comment such as “Children are to be seen and not heard.” “Women are too emotional. They do not make good leaders.” “You will never change.” When you speak inner vows against people it can affect them negatively in their lives. For example, a person that may have a drug addiction problem that they are trying to recover from. If a person close to them tells them that they will never change. It could create a mindset in that person which causes them to believe that they will never be able to get over the drug addiction. They may be able to be in recovery for a long period of time and something can trigger what was spoken into that person’s life about them never being able to change. So, they will go back to being addicted to drugs. That is just an example. There can be other factors involved that can contribute to a person experiencing negative consequences from having a spiritual door opened. Until the spiritual door is closed. It allows for Satan to bring chaos into our lives.
When there is a spiritual door of inner vows opened. Oftentimes, it is due to not understanding how powerful our words are. We say things carelessly not aware that we are opening up a portal that can lead to destruction in our lives and the lives of others. What is in our hearts flows out of our mouths and if we are not mindful of what is in our hearts. It can negatively hinder our lives. We have to examine our hearts and think before we speak. James speaks about the tongue and that no man can tame it. He says that it is an unruly evil that is full of deadly poison. (James 3:8). Only God can help us tame our tongues. We cannot do it on our own.
As Dr. Malone states in his book. Inner vows can lay dormant for years before a situation in our lives triggers that inner vow to create destruction in our lives. The inner vow that I made about my marriage laid dormant for 6 years. The trigger was my ex-husband’s girlfriend and I meeting at a funeral. Within a couple weeks of her finding out he was married. She rode with him to the courthouse to make sure that he filed for divorce. At that point in time; I did not want a divorce. I wanted my husband back and for us to work on our marriage. He believed in his heart at the time that he was doing what was best for him and me.
My inner vow not only enslaved me spiritually; it also enslaved my ex-husband spiritually. He ended up being in a relationship with someone who was a liability to him instead of an asset. My inner vow led both of us to have the wrong mindset towards each other and our marriage. Though, I meant the words that I spoke at the time before my wedding took place. Six years later; I wish that I never spoke those thirteen words. What the enemy intended for bad. God made good out of it because now I can help other people to not make the same mistake that I did by speaking idle words.
It was not until I went through my period of “Getting To The Root” of why I was not living a life in abundance is when God revealed to me that I opened up spiritual doors legally that needed to be closed before I could begin to experience my harvest of good roots and new fruit. I had to repent for the part that I played in my marriage ending and then I was able to close the spiritual door of inner vows. I hope that using my own life experience of having a spiritual door of inner vows opened gave a clear picture of how destructive our words can be when we say things without understanding how powerful our words are and how those inner vows can lay dormant for years before you begin to see the negative fruit those words can produce.
“But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.” – Matthew 12:36 KJV
Continue to follow the Spiritual Door series on my blog or Getting To The Root podcast for the next posts. Spiritual Door of Judgments will be the next topic. Be Blessed!!!
Malone, H. (2004). Shadow boxing: the dynamic 2-5-14 strategy to defeat the darkness within /cHenry Malone. Irving, TX: Vision Life Publications.
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