Imagine you’re a dedicated gardener in the beautiful but intricate Garden of Matrimony. This isn’t just any ordinary garden. It’s one that’s been passed down through many generations, with soil that has felt both the nurturing touch of rain and the scorching trials of the sun.

On the first day, Dr. Reva teaches us about the garden’s history, its ancient roots, and how sometimes weeds grow from seeds of old habits or unresolved conflicts. You learn to identify these spiritual weeds, which are like unwanted spirits that wither the garden’s beauty.

By the second day, you’re equipped with knowledge about the garden’s past, understanding the hidden layers beneath the surface that influence the landscape you see today. Your own Garden of Matrimony had started to wilt, and now you begin to trace the patterns back through your garden’s history, finding that the issues of separation and divorce have been like persistent weeds, sprouting in every new bed of flowers.

The third day dawns, and it’s time to roll up your sleeves. Extracting roots is tough work, sweat beads on your forehead as you set to clear the garden, making space to nurture something new. You recall midnight conversations, inherited stories of separations that, like invasive species, crept into your garden. Dr. Reva reminds you to sow new seeds of forgiveness and learning, planting into the cleared earth the promise of future blooms.

Now, it’s day four. After all that hard work, your garden’s soil is turned, and new seeds are nestled in the earth. It’s time for watering and monitoring, emphasizes Dr. Reva. Your garden will require a steady flow of water—consistent effort and spiritual nourishment. You will monitor like a mindful caretaker, adjusting supports for the tender stems of reconciliation and removal of pesky weeds like impatience or miscommunication that threaten to choke new growth.

And just like a gardener must learn the delicate balance of patience and action, Janice asks about balancing the participation in nurturing the garden when only one gardener seems to notice the weeds. Dr. Reva’s wisdom can be likened to a mentor gardener who knows when and how to let a plant seek light on its own. For even in a garden, no force can compel a flower to open before its time.

With the right prayers, like the sun and rain, providing life-giving energy, even those plants that seem lost to the shadows may find their way back into the sunlight. And as every diligent gardener knows, while you cannot control the weather or force a seed to sprout, you can continue to tend to the earth, water diligently, and have faith that in time, your Garden of Matrimony will flourish once again, blooming with flowers of love, respect, and unity—rooted deeply and beautifully in sacred ground.