Ladies that want to be married. Pause and read this.

Men usually know within six months to a year of dating you whether or not they want to marry you.

Do not compromise if you truly want to be married. It is better to walk away than to remain in a relationship that is not leading toward the marriage you are seeking.

All states are different, but I spoke with an individual that lives in Florida and who shared that she was in a five-year relationship with a man who told her he loved only her and said he was going to marry her. I explained that in the state of Florida, if a person is truly serious about marriage, a marriage license can be obtained, and the couple can legally marry within three days. Less than three days if you have gone through pre-marriage counseling according to Florida courthouse.

This raises an important question.

When he tells you he loves you, what type of love is it?
Not all love is the same, and not all love is meant to lead to marriage.

Eros (Romantic or Passionate Love)
This is passionate and often physical love. It is driven by attraction, desire, and chemistry. Eros can feel intense and consuming, but it does not automatically include commitment, sacrifice, or responsibility.

Philia (Friendship Love)
This is the deep bond of friendship, camaraderie, and emotional connection. It is built on shared experiences and mutual respect. Someone can genuinely love you this way and still have no intention of marrying you.

Storge (Familiar or Familial Love)
This is affectionate love rooted in comfort, familiarity, and history. It often develops over time and can feel safe and stable, but it can also keep people together out of habit rather than purpose.

Agape (Selfless or Unconditional Love)
This is sacrificial, intentional, and covenant aligned love. It seeks the good of the other person, even at personal cost. This is the type of love that reflects commitment, responsibility, and marriage.

If you find yourself waiting, holding onto promises without action, or unsure why the relationship feels stalled, it may be time to get to the root of it.

Schedule a Root Discovery Call to begin uncovering what type of love is actually being offered, what is keeping you in the relationship, and whether it aligns with the marriage you are truly seeking.

Let’s get to the root together!

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